what is the definition of bullying- lasting effects of bullying

Bullying is the process of intimidating or mistreating someone weaker or in a more vulnerable situation. the intentional tormenting in physical, verbal or psychological ways’. It ranges anywhere from hitting, shoving, name-calling and mocking to extorting money and personal possessions. Its being mean and ugly to others on purpose, bullies know what they are doing, bullies hurt others for their own satisfaction. They intentionally target someone who is vulnerable to repeatedly hurt them, belittle them repeatedly hurting their feelings. Intimidation of a weaker person.

The definition of bullying

What is the definition of bullying, it is repeated aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person either mentally or physically. With the purpose of gaining power over or persons being targeted. It’s a power imbalance. It’s a cry for help

when a person intentionally inflicts injury or discomfort upon another person through physical contact, through words or in other ways’. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving In a certain way to gain power over another person. There are so many hurtful things that define bullying, such as when someone Says or does something intentionally hurtful and they keep doing it over and over even when you tell them to stop or you tell them you don’t like what they are doing, they answer you saying, They don’t care what you like or don’t like. And they keep hurting you. That’s bullying.

Bullying defined as

  • leaving someone out on purpose
  • calling someone hurtful names
  • making fun of someone
  • spreading harmful lies or rumors about someone
  • belittles someone puts them down
  • threaten a person to cause them harm
  • pushing, shoving or tripping someone intentionally to cause them harm
  • persuading others to bully someone
  • ignores someone intentionally
  • punches, kicking and or pulling someones hair
  • taking, hiding or destroying someones property
  • stalking or following someone
  • wrongs a person to hurt their feelings
  • repeating aggressive behavior
  • unacceptable
  • deliberately harming someone
  • done to make the bully feel powerful
  • about controlling someone
  • hurts someone in different ways’
  • something that can happen to anyone, anytime, and in any way

Bystanders are bullies too if they

  1. Join in with the bully
  2. Laugh with or cheer on the bully
  3. Copy what the bully is doing.
  4. Shows support for the bully
  5. does nothing to stop the bully

Types of bullying

verbal, physical, gender differences, psychological

Gender differences, both girls and boys bully, girls are more likely to bully in groups.

Spread rumors, gossip and lie.

Tend to use social exclusion


write bad things about other girls in bathroom stalls or on mirrors at school

where boy tend to use physical aggression such as,

punches, kicking, shoving, tripping, pushing down

they make a person to do things you do not want to do

Physical bullying, causing physical harm to someone, hitting, punches, scratching, kicking, pinching, spitting on, tripping, slapping, pulling hair, choking, …

Verbal bullying, using words to cause fear or harm to someone, as a means to control another person, name-calling, teasing intentionally to tear down another person, threatening physical harm if victim can’t be controlled, making inappropriate comments about their culture, race or physical appearance, spreading lies/ rumors about the victim.

Defining bullying and its lasting effects

When verbal bullying is consistent in a victims’ life, that person can easily be led to believe lies about themselves. Being told you are ugly, stupid, worthless and you’ll never be happy much less make anyone else happy, that no one will ever love you be a very easy way a bully can control your actions. By continually abusing a victims’ image of themselves, a bully creates a world where they are authority and the only person to believe.

For many people(both children and adults) the authority figure in their life has created them a mental image of themselves that makes them feel inferior to others. Being subject to bullying constantly the victim will eventually be in a place that the only thing they believe are the lies presented to them by their abuser or bully.

While physical damages can have lasting scars, verbal bullying and its effects are the ones that leave eternal scars that we carry the rest of our lives, a wound will heal and a scar will fade, but the emotional and mental pain will continue for years to come.

Verbal bullying is the most common form of bullying used today and the one that will likely have the most powerful effect on our children for years to come.

Bullying occurs in a context where there be a real or perceived power imbalance, bullying affects children as well as adults all types of people fat, skinny, tall, short, any race, any age. It can be physical, verbal, social

social bullying, preventing someone from having friendships with others.

Effects of all bullying types

  • fear

  • hiding

  • shame

  • beaten down

  • disbelief

  • suicide

  • pain

  • victim

  • no hope

  • death

  • nightmares

  • unworthy

  • depression

  • poor self-esteem

  • inability to tell the truth from a lie

  • feeling helpless
  • Feels they have no choice but to obey the bully

Signs of a child being bullied

  1. unexplained injuries
  2. frequent headaches, stomach pain or faking sickness
  3. lost or damaged property/belongings including torn or ripped clothing, books, personal items’
  4. difficulty sleeping or having nightmares
  5. drop in grades
  6. suddenly losing friends
  7. not wanting to go to school
  8. avoiding social gatherings/situations

Anti bullying techniques

  • avoid confrontation
  • use assertive body language
  • try using humor, sarcasm
  • hang out with more kids
  • make more friends
  • stay around adults
  • find someone to tell
  • join groups that are doing things you love to do
  • awareness and communication are so very important

Bullying is killing our children, being different is killing our children and the kids doing the bullying are dying inside. We have to save our children whether they are being bullied or they are bullying. They are all in pain. Bullies were not born bullies they learned it, someone bullied them it could have been siblings, parents, other family members, other kids. Bullies are more afraid to tell someone that they are being bullied therefore they keep it bottled up inside until they reach a point they can no longer Stand the pain, the anger they are feeling. All the suffering they are going through is going to be taken out on their victim. Usually they will target someone that is vulnerable or a person that remind them in some way of the person or persons hurting them, or someone That is alone most of the time, the bully now has a victim he/she can hurt, someone they can control. A person they can hit if they don’t listen to them or don’t do what they say.


By Miriam

my name is Miriam Mendoza, I live in Bakersfield California I was born in Ogden Utah, February 1958 I am married to Felipe Mendoza


  1. Your article is very in depth and caused me to consider what actions I have taken in the past.  I would have to say that I have fallen short of the standards sometimes.  Bullying is not a tolerable offense, and I have never liked being bullied, or seeing others bullied.  I experienced bullying as a child, and into some of my early adult years, so I can relate to how important this topic is.  Some people do not find a way to recover, and it is very sad indeed when I have heard some of the stories that ended tragically… unnecessarily.  Fortunately there is a way to overcome these negative feelings, and to become the person we desire to be.  All I can say is that there is a lot to learn for anyone that has a desire to change.  Believe in the possibility that life can be better, and that is a good start.  Get close to the ones who will continue helping you on the path to recovery, and follow your dreams.  Thank you for caring to share.

    1. Thank you for the awesome comment I feel like I am moving in the right direction of what I would love to accomplish with my website. It is inspiring people like you who give me motivation. 

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  2. I hate bullies. I am glad for your website about bullies and the harm they do. It isn’t just instant harm. It carries its effects into adulthood often for the victim.

    Now, with the internet in full swing, this dark aspect of society is worse than ever. The world of social shaming. When your Facebook page gets lit up with nasty posts from people you thought were your friends. You hear about suicides that sometimes happen because of this. Terrible. It isn’t just something reserved for the schoolyard anymore. Thanks for being informative.

    1. You are so welcome. I want to thank you for you comment. I am so amazed at all the positive feed back I am receiving it make me proud of what I am doing and motivation to keep building more amazing stuff.

  3. Thank you so much for sharing with us a beautiful article. The main content of this article is Whether is the definition of Bullying that the lasting effect of the building. Bullying is the systematic abuse of power and is defined as aggressive behavior or intentional harm-doing by peers that are carried out repeatedly and involve an imbalance of power.Bullying of any form or for any reason can have immediate, medium and long-term effects on those involved, including bystanders.

    It is imperative that schools, families, and communities work together to understand bullying and its consequences and find ways to decrease, and hopefully eradicate, bullying both in schools and communities.

    Enjoyed reading your article so I want to share your article on my Facebook group if you give me permission.

  4. Hello there! This is an amazing article you’ve got here, I must commend you for taking out time to write on this vital topic. For me, Bullying kills faster than anything because it goes a long way to affect the victim in all areas of life and in some cases, can lead to suicide which is very bad.

    1. Thank you it really is one of the most  important topics to me. I talk of what I know. It really does have drastic effects on some people. The only way to really deal with bullying is bringing awareness.  Hopefully together we all can learn what to look for in a child if we suspect something is wrong. Their are ways to start a conversation with children to find out if they are having problems.

      thank you and best wishes


      no bullying stop bullying


  5. this is a great and amazing article. i sincerely your effort creating time  to write on such an informative article which has taught me a lot more on what is the definition of bullying. i have really learnt that is repeated aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person either mentally or physically. thanks for sharing this amazing article.

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