Parents that are bullies

As far as I am concerned, parents that are bullies are very controlling, overbearing, and abusive. These parents involve themselves in mental, physical, and even cyberbullying. This article will help define what a bully is. Mental and emotional bullying and cyberbullying. As well as some tips to help deal with bullying parents.

Parents that are bullies

When we think of bullies, we often think of kids terrorizing other kids. However, it is very important to take into account, some parents are bullies. These parents that victimize kids do exist and they can cause real life-threatening problems in children’s lives.

Recently there have been cases where adults, bully teenagers online, additionally, some parenting strategies can lend themselves to bullying.

It is really important to carefully consider the behavior you have with your kids since it is possible that you are or you could become a bullying parent.

What is a bully

a bully is someone who is regularly overcome by emotional pressure or physical force. He/she causes humiliation or discomfort to another person, particularly if the other person is smaller, weaker, or more vulnerable, this can be physical bullying, emotional, verbal, or cyberbullying.

It is important to understand that bullying goes much further than physical intimidation.

Many people don’t realize that mental and emotional bullying can have just as many long-lasting effects as physical bullying.

In my opinion, I would say that mental bullying effects last longer than physical bullying, I say this only because bumps and bruises will clear up in a few days, mental abuse scars are embedded deep in the soul, In your heart, and your mind.

All types of bullying behavior have long-lasting effects. Bullying is bullying any way you look at it and can leave lifelong scars that may never heal. Most kids look up to their parents and love them so much, that they want to be just like them.

The effect of abuse by parents that bully

It is a strange feeling to know your parents are or cup ⁸an be bullies, but they can be.

Parents that bully are overbearing, are constantly belittling, or seek to be controlling and enforcing rules with a heavy hand, and maybe crossing the line into bullying behavior.

Indeed, there is a difference between correcting a child s behavior and always wanting to be in control of every aspect of their child s life.

Emotional and mental bullying by parents

many parents do understand that there is a line when it comes to physical Discipline. It could be a tough subject to tackle, but in general, it is much easier to identify bullying behaviors that are physical as opposed to those that are verbal, mental, or emotional.

Mental and emotional bullying works by using methods of demeaning speech or other techniques that are meant to help the bully feel superior.

When bullying parents use this kind of parenting, they try to motivate their kids to be derisive, this can be very damaging since it can encourage a child to think bad About him/herself.

This can leave mental scars that can result in depression, as well as setting the kids up to have difficulty sustaining good responsible relationships.

Indeed, if a child learns how to treat people from the example of a bullying parent, he/she is more than likely to grow to be a bully as well and may have a hard time developing healthy relationships.

Cyberbullying by parent

Another form of bullying is cyberbullying. Some bullying by parents are developing along these lines, as they try to dominate others that are in an online social circle.

Cyberbullying has become a real problem. It involves saying mean thing to others online, posting horrific graffiti on someone’s wall, including a picture of suicide, or sharing photos with others, 0of a person in compromising situations.

Indeed, cyberbullying is such a problem, that there was a case in which an adult woman harassed a teenager online so much, that the teen got so depressed and committed suicide.

Some parents use such tactics to control their children’s lives. Other parents believe they are protecting their kids when they bully other kids. To protect their kids some parents go too far, to teach other kids a lesson and become bullies themselves.

How to deal with parents that bully

Dealing with parents that bully can be very difficult. The first thing you should do is talk to the parent/s, try to work out any problems. Hopefully, it will work, but if that doesn’t work, it would be a good idea to talk to some sort of adult authority at the school, or even talk to law enforcement. Get the law involved if it is necessary, for the safety of the kids. Most kids are taught to respect adults. Therefore, when an adult acts with mean bullying behavior, just like a child should know, an adult should also know, bullying behavior is not allowed and there are consequences for their behavior. There are different laws in different states.8ItIt is so crucial that the bullying parent/s be stopped. If something is not done fast to stop them, It could leave long term psyche problems for the victim, for their kid, which could damage the rest of their lives.

The victim can get into a real state of depression and not know how to deal with it, in some cases, the victim may contemplate suicide, may try to commit or succeed in committing suicide.

A stop needs to be put to these parents that are bullies.

Kids that experience abuse or bullying behavior at home, these kids are the most likely to become bullies. Bullying hurts everyone concerned. Parents that are bullies, should realize that they are the grown-ups.

Most adults are responsible and teach their kids how to be kind and not to be a bully.

Can you understand, why any parent would want to hurt an innocent child? instead of helping them grow to be healthy, productive, loving, and caring people?

17 thoughts on “Parents that are bullies”

  1. This is a great article! Sad but true, parents can bully their kids. The effects that a parent who bullies there kid has is long-lasting. I watched a documentary on Netflix that broke my heart and I only wish there were better laws in place to help children going through this.

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  2. Hey,

    This is a very important article and website. Especially during these times in lockdown and we are at home a lot more than we were before. There has been an increase on bullying and domestic violence all over the world, and it needs to stop.

    Your article will benefit so many parents who are bullying, but may not know that they are bullying. But, also it will majorly benefit those who know exactly what they’re doing. They probably don’t realise that what they are doing is shaping how their child will feel and behave as an adult. It can lead to extremely bad things and it needs to stop.

    Thank you for sharing and doing your best to try to stop this behaviour towards children. Keep up the amazing work on your site.

    All the best,

    Tom

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    • Thank you Tom, it make me feel very good when I get positive comments. I really am trying to share a little common sense with as many people I can reach around the world. I know that many parent worked and only dealt with the children a few hours, but now it’s all day it can be nerve-wrecking for them. Communication is good for for everyone. “Think before you speak, because what comes out can’t be take back”
      It is people like you that inspire me to do more.

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  3. Thanks for this informative article. It’s so important to raise awareness about bullying at home. People mostly focus on bullying at school, on kids being bullied by their peers. But no one really talks about ‘home bullying’ which I believe can also be called a domestic abuse.
    It’s so sad to think some kids have to go through this- in place where they should feel safe, they feel threatened and unloved. I think mental abuse is as terrible as physical abuse.
    It’s great to see someone trying to tackle this issue in the online world. We need change!
    Keep up the good work, take care:)

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  4. Thank you so much for this much-needed article, Miriam! It’s heartbreaking that so many people choose to mistreat others for their own selfish gain, but it’s even worse when parents bully their children. God gives us children to love them, nurture them, support them , and teach them right from wrong; we cannot help them to become valuable members of society if we ourselves don’t know how to be valuable members of society. With everything going on in the world today, it’s so important that we show one another the love of Jesus Christ; love is the thread that keeps us together, trumps hate, helps to prevent bullying and suicides, and makes this world a better place. Thank you so much for addressing this prevalent issue. I will definitely share your article with my friends and family. God bless you!

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    • Thank you CN for this great comment. my goal is to bring much needed awareness and when people like you share it gets to more people thank you for caring

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  5. This article is really important and needs to be heard and read by all parents and future parents. Sometimes it could be hard for parents to find the line that they can’t ever cross.
    I am a single mom, and I now how kids can get on us, but giving in to bullying is just not an answer.
    I think that parents that bully their kids, were bullied in their childhood be their own parents and just don’t know how to teach them in another way.

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  6. Hi Miriam, This is a very touchy subject, in the old days I think it was easier to find a solution against bulling but because of technology and with our people skills getting less. I think this a very big topic that needs to be addressed on how to handle it. Keep up the good work in getting the message out there. Regards Barry

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  7. This gave me some time to think about if my parents bullied me at some point in my life. And I think they did at some point, but not always. I just know they are disappointed about something I have no control over and I was only a kid. Those memories, though isolated, shaped me and changed the way I feel about myself. And I wish things went differently. It’s hard to talk about it. I think every parent should read this.

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    • Chris thank you so much for your comment. You know these are the kind of stories that break my heart. I lived through most of the things I talk about on my website. And I hope that I can share enough awareness that no child should have to go through so much pa toin it simply is not fair. Please parents be careful how you speak to your children they become who you make them. Chris I am so sorry to that you went through things you’d rather not talk about. But if you would like we could have a private conversation.you could email me 

      miriam@bullieshurt.com

      best wishes Chris,

      miriam

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  8. Most often than not, most parents do not realise how much they bully their kids and which tends to affect them both physically and emotionally and tells a lot on their performances in every areas of lifem I really appreciate all you have shared here and I will make good use of this here. Thanks so much for sharing this post out here. Thanks

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    • EliteCarol thank you so much. It really mean a lot to me that I am doing what I have set out to do bring awareness to many parents and  children. It💔to hear stories of anyone that has been bullied or gotten beat up because someone didn’t or doesnt like the way we look. Moreso, when parents do this to their kids. I was bullied/abused by my parents, when I was a little girl. It made me think feel so alone so helpless.  I don’t want any child to have to feel like this. It really hurts. I always thought why? why is this happening I didn’t ask to come into this world, and much less for these parents.  If aperson decides to bring a child to life, then they should take care of them and protect them til I they take care of themselves. And parents that were bullied when they were small honestly need some sort of help.  I know for a fact that a person that has been bullied or abused knows no different way to treat their own children. The cycle needs to be broken at some point. I would really liked if you shared with other to get awareness spread ass much as possible. Once again thank you.

      bestwishes,

      miriam@bullieshurt.com

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  9. I really appreciate this article on Bully, most children and wives are suffering from this, imagine a child that is being bullied at school and also at home, this can bring depression on children.

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  10. Our approach to the way we deal with our kids can really say a lot about the way they end up behaving while growing or when they finally grow up. Also, if we are bullying them, all we are only advocating for them is to go out and bully the less to them and that can only mean bad things off the generations to come. In fact, they might end up bullying their kids too and that is bad. This post is really good

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    • Thank you for your comment. Kids learn what they are taught more by what they see I was watching a clip earlier it was a lady with her son.  she told him to join his pointer finger with his thumb and told him to touch his chin, but while she is showing him how to join his finger. she tells him to touch his chin, while she touches her cheek she tells him about 4 times, he’s doing what he sees not what he hears. That made me think about how our actions teach our kids.great comment you left thank you

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  11. Thanks for writing this article and raising awareness of the scourge of bullying in our society. Bullying occurs in every sector of society where a human being has the opportunity to exercise control over another. Parents are no exception and the incidents of bullying by parents on their children seems to be hitting record levels during the pandemic. The bullying of children, especially by those who are meant to protect them, is incredibly tragic and the effects long lasting, even extending generations. I’m glad you mentioned about the fact that bullying isn’t always a physical act. Bullying can very much be a psychologically controlling behaviour, and this is an important point. Thanks for sharing.

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    • It really is a sad situation. You are right when you say it has tragic long term effects, when we are bullied by the very person/people that are supposed to protect us.  Thanks for leaving a comment. I am on the right path if I help a person to realize what  he/she are doing to their child.  Working to change bullying behavior. kids need to be protected and loved. They grow up to be what we make of them. There are the ones that break that cycle. Thank you so much for you comment 

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