Long term bullying effects

Long term effects

Long term bullying effects

When it comes to, long-term bullying effects, they can be devastating..the effects can follow the bullied child, the bully, and even the witnesses into adulthood. It can affect the people they come in contact with later in life.

Bullying can hurt everyone, those that are being bullied, those that are doing the bullying, and the ones that witness the bullying. Bullying is linked to many negative outcomes, including mental health issues, substance abuse, and suicide.

Important to talk to kids

it is important to talk to kids, to determine if bullying or anything else may be a concern to them.

There are still some schools that lack surveillance cameras, a security system that needs to exist in all schools, colleges, and universities.

With so much violence transpiring all around us and the violence at schools. Our children are sent to school to learn we accept them to be safe. We don’t expect them to come home beat up.  No one at school can explain to parents or the police what happened.

The surveillance system is not up to date and some areas are not in the cameras’ view.

We all need to stress to the school the importance of having a view of all areas except the bathroom stall all other areas should be visible to protect our children, not only from bullying behavior. For so many other reasons.

I was in Mexico and there was an incident where a woman went to a school and walked away with a child the child was found two weeks later in a shallow grave. It doesn’t only happen there.

It would be safe to say that anyone that has a residence should have a security system to protect them as well as their homes.

Kids that are bullies

  • can experience negative, physical, and mental health issues.
  • They are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, increased feelings of sadness, and loneliness.
  • Their eating habit and/or sleeping habits change.
  • The activities that they once loved doing seem to no longer be of interest to them.
  • Friends that they once had are no longer important to them.

These issues may continue into adulthood.

  • Health complaints
  • With a decrease in academic achievement, school participation
  • they are most likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school.

A very small number of children that are bullied or have been bullied might retaliate, through extremely violent measures.

Studies show, in 12 of 15 school shooting cases that happened in the 1990s, the school shooter had a history of being bullied.

Kids that bully others can engage in violent and/or other Kinds of risky behavior into adulthood.

Kids that bully are more likely to,

  • abuse of alcohol and/or drugs as adolescents and as adults.
  • Get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school.
  • Have criminal convictions and traffic citations as adults.
  • Engage in early sexual activity
  • be abusive to their romantic partners, spouses, or children as adults

Kids that witness bullying

  •  Kids that witness bullying are more  likely to start using or have an increase in tobacco usage it
  • has increased mental health problems
  • depression and anxiety

miss, skip classes, I or drop school

The relationship of bullying to suicide

news reports often links bullying with suicide. However, most youth who are bullied do not have thoughts of suicide or engage in suicidal behaviors.

Although, kids that are bullied are at risk of suicide. Any issues contribute to suicide risk, including depression, problems at home, and trauma history. Additionally, specific groups have an increased risk of suicide. Including American Indian, Alaskan Native, Asian American, lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, and transgender youth. This risk can be further increased when the youth are not supported by parents, peers, and schools. Bullying can make an unsupported situation worse.

Bullying leaves scars for a lifetime&

when kids are bullied it leaves lasting scars that heal superficially, but deep inside the names that were yelled at them, the trauma will always be a part of their lives. I suggest for them to seek counseling or find someone you can relate to, When you get depressed or anxious, this is a critical time. Don’t ignore these feelings because they can only get worse if you don’t seek help. The victim carries these feelings through life, their relationship or family life will have no chance. The person that was being bullied could see everyone as someone that wants to hurt them, even if it’s not true. They may always be wondering when or where they will be attacked.

The emotional damage caused by

when a child is emotionally damaged they tend to act out, they become very angry and aggressive, at the time they cry not from the pain they’re feeling. They cry of the anger that they feel. Therefore, they need to find the person they need to become their victim.or they may already have their victim chosen. Whatever the case maybe it’s not somebody’s lucky day. Bullies will just suddenly start being mean, it usually starts verbally, after a few times of verbal abuse, it starts to escalate when the person who is being a bully starts to see that he/she is gaining control over the person that is being bullied, then the physical abuse starts. It does not need to reach this point, it should have been brought to someone’s attention the very first time the victim felt threatened. What happens is, the victim is afraid of what will happen if they tell on them, so it gets out of hand and the victim finds no other way out of this deep dark hole. By this time there are many red flags showing signs that something is wrong with this child or this person. If any of their behavior seems abnormal get to the point as fast as you can let them know they did nothing wrong and they are not in trouble, if they are being bullied or someone is doing something to them you need to know so you can help them stop it before it gets worse.

Where bullying led this young kid

I’m going to share a couple of stories I read, about what the long term bullying effects can cause,

1. Kelly Y. (1984-1997) at the age of 13 Kelly was an English schoolgirl, from the Derby Suburb of Allentown. News spread very fast when the reason was blamed on bullying of which she was a victim. It was reported she was victimized by other local kids. The victim of repeated harassment and taunting. It was more about her weight, things got worse in September 1997, when a group of kids gathered at her house several nights in a row and each night they threw food at her house and shouted really ugly things at Kelly. This made Kelly tell her family, that she had had enough, and was going to take an overdose. Five kids between the ages of 13 and 17 were convicted of intentionally harassing Kelly in the months that lead up to her death.

2. Hamed N.(1985-2000) this boy was a 14-year-old high school student when he committed suicide by jumping off of the Pattullo bridge due to bullying, which affected him in such a way that he only found one way out. He left a note explaining that he was being bullied do and was suffering he said he was being bullied by mates and his classmates, he wrote even àqqhis friends laughed at him and they would call him names like four eyes, geek, big nose among other things because his average scores were above 90. At 5:00 p.m. his father, mother,r and little brother went outside to visit with the neighbors. Hamed and his older brother were left in the house. His brother went to take a shower which left Hamed alone. Hamed put his Tommy Hilfiger jacket on and slipped out the door and made his way to Pattillo and jumped off the Pattillo bridge.

There is a long list of children who commit suicide that is related to bullying. And the truth is no one deserves this kind of treatment. Nor does anyone have the right to treat others badly. This kind of behavior is inhuman. And will not be tolerated.

By Miriam

my name is Miriam Mendoza, I live in Bakersfield California I was born in Ogden Utah, February 1958 I am married to Felipe Mendoza


  1. Bullying is so awful! It’s my impression it’s getting worse in these modern times although I am not sure of course. I was either ignorant or extremely lucky but I am happy to say I have never even witnessed bullying when I was young.
    Let’s hope awareness through articles like these contribute to more understanding.

  2. Hi Miriam,

    Thank you for creating this website and sharing articles like this to raise awareness about bullying.

    I, myself, was a victim of bullying when I was in primary school. The effects of being told small, short, etc affected my teenage life. I even got bullied in my family because I am shorter from my younger sister and brother. So, I grew up with the mindset that I am not tall enough, not pretty enough, I was very self-conscious until I got to adulthood. The good thing is I did not take harsh actions and hurt myself and or the people around me. I joined a youth fellowship at church starting from my high school year and eventually became one of the leaders. I learned not only about leadership, organization, build my confidence, but I also found that I do have potentials and be my better self. After I graduated from college, I even took a big step to join the youth exchange program abroad. Even then, I still could feel intimidated by my friends who seem to be a better leader, but I get better now.
    I think it is important for parents and educators to pay close attention to kids who got bullied because if we don’t help them to rise above the hardships they are facing, they won’t be strong enough to lift themselves up once they fall into a deep depression.

    Thanks again for creating this website. You have a great cause here to increase people’s awareness of stopping bullying.

  3. No one deserves to be bullied and we all need to watch out for our communities to make sure this doesn’t happen. Thank you for bringing awareness to this very serious issue.

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