How to stop bullying at school,
How to stop bullying at school, parents, teachers, and the community as a whole all have a major role when it comes to stopping the bullying at school, it will not go away by itself and it may never go away. But as grown ups we need to be aware of our children’s safety.
Treat children with respect and listen to them
Kids deserve to be treated with respect and listened to. Many of us have been so busy at one time or another to sit down and listen to our children, they may be telling us something very important, we run around trying to get dinner done or whatever it may be, and they are talking their little hearts out and we just answer and say OK, yes, I will take care of it, and a couple of days go by and the child comes and ask did you take care of that. With this look on our face, we ask them, take care of what? they start to explain and we have the slightest idea of what they are talking about and we just say you never told me anything about that, they start to cry because what they said was important to them. Sometimes Things get hectic and we can’t find the time to sit and listen for a few minute
Make time to engage with children
To help prevent bullying, parents need to make time to engage with our kids. We need to help kids understand bullying, talk about what bullying is and how to stand up to it safely, let the kids know that bullying is unacceptable behavior and will not be tolerated. Make sure they know how and where to get help
Keep the lines of communication open for them at all times. Check-in with the kids often. Listen and understand their concerns. Know who their friends are, meet them interact with them get to know them on a personal level. Ask the kids about school what they like about school and what they don’t like about it.
- Encourage kids to do what they love such as hobbies special activities, things that interest them this can boost their confidence, can help them make friends and can keep them away from bullying behavior
Teach kids what bullying is
kids learn from adults actions by treating others with kindness and respect, adults show kids that in their lives there is no place for bullying, though it seems like they are not paying attention they are, kids are watching how adults manage stress and conflict, as well as how they treat their friends and family,
kids that are taught what bullying is, are better at identifying it quickly, they will talk about bullying if it happens to them or others. Encourage kids to speak to adults that they trust if they are bullied or see that others are getting bullied, these adults can give you or others comfort, advice, and support although they may not be able to solve the problem directly at the moment. I can’t stress enough to please encourage kids to tell if it is happening to them or if they see it happening to anyone, because the person that is getting bullied may be too afraid to tell what is happening to them, we don’t even know if it just recently started or if they were going through it for a little time or a lot of time.
Help kids that are being bullied
How to stand up to kids that bully, give tips like using humor, saying “stop” directly and confidently. Talk about what to do if those actions don’t happen to work, like walking away.
Strategies for staying safe such as staying near adults or groups of kids that don’t mingle with the bully.
Urge them to help the kids that are being bullied by showing kindness and/or getting them help.
Keep lines of communication open
keeping lines of communication open is very important in preventing bullying
Research shows us that kids do seek out parents and caregivers for help and advice on tough decisions’ spending 15 to 20 minutes a day talking can easily reassure kids that they can talk to the parents if they have a problem or if they just feel that they need to tell about what they saw and don’t know how to tell someone because they got threatened.
Start conversations with them about daily life and their feelings with questions like these;
- what was one good thing that happened today? Did any bad things happen?
- what is lunchtime like at your school? who do you sit with? what do you talk about?
- what is it like to ride the school bus?
- what are you good at?
- what do you like best about yourself?
“Talking about bullying directly is an important step in understanding how the issue of bullying may be affecting kids. The following questions have no right or wrong answers, but we must let them know the importance of answering them as honestly as they can. and we need to let them know that they are not alone when addressing any problems that may come up and that the answers may be a great help with preventing bullying at school, at the bus stop even on the bus ride to and from school.”
- start a conversation about preventing bullying using questions like these,
- what does bullying mean to you? describe what kids who bully are like?
- why do you think people bully?
- who are the adults you trust most when it comes to things like bullying?
- have you ever felt scared to go to school, because you were afraid of being bullied?
- what ways have you tried to change it?
- what do you think parents should do to prevent and/or stop bullying?
- do you ever see kids at your school being bullied by other kids? how does that make you feel?
- have you ever tried to help someone who was being bullied?
- what happened? what would you do if it happened again?
- have you seen bullying at the bus stop or on the bus? did anyone try to stop it?
here are some simple ways parents and caregivers can keep up to date with kids’ lives
- Read class newsletters and school fliers.
- Go to school events.
- Greet the bus driver.
- Meet teachers and counselors at back to school night or reach out by email.
- Share your phone number with other kids’ parents.
Our role in stopping bullying at school
as caring adults, we need to learn our role in, helping stop bullying at school. How to take a public approach to bully. We need to educate ourselves on how to spot early warning signs when kids are afraid to reach out for help, many kids are too afraid to tell someone. Studies show that the longer it takes to detect, that much more damage it is causing in a child’s life, they will start looking for ways to stop the pain they are feeling, such as but not limited to taking pills and/or drinking alcoholic beverages just anything that helps them not to feel the hurt, the shame or the blame. If this doesn’t help they tend to seek stronger methods of drugs and that works only for a little while, then low and behold they decide the only way out is to take their life leaving parents asking themselves;
- where did we go wrong?
- what was going on with them?
- How did this get to this point?
- what could we have done to stop this from happening?
- Why didn’t we see what was going on?
- who caused this?
All of these questions who? what? where? when? and why? All the questions in the world are not going to change what happened. To parents, caregivers, school staff, and other caring adults, this can be very devastating don’t let this happen to any more children. Let’s get educated about bullying, who is at risk? what signs to look for? How we can help? What can be done if our child is being bullied?
There are so many reasons why kids bully.
These are some reason kids bully;
- they seek attention, need to be in control.
- Have friends that bully, one or both parents are bullies.
- Get bullied by siblings or someone else, enjoy hurting others.
- Although there is no excuse good or bad to bully, bullies tend to seek approval from kids around when kids laugh at what they do to others it makes their adrenaline level go up very fast.
Most of all the bullies need to know that bullying is not allowed not today not ever it will not be tolerated and there are repercussions for there actions, which over time can be harming them.
Let them know that there are programs they can get involved in to wear off some of this overwhelming energy they may have. Explain to the bully the damage he/she may be causing and ask him/her to stop hurting others. If they keep being bullies the outcome may not be good for them or the victims or either family. One family may be burying their child, while the other family may have to visit in jail.
Talk to them also and find out what it is they are trying to accomplish by hurting others that do nothing at all to hurt them or bother them. It is not OK behavior and it is not allowed in school on the bus or in the community.
Suicide, absolutely no way to undo it.